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Changing Indian Families

Changing Indian Families

Many of us remember the big families, large joint families with tens of people living together in one house. Almost at the same pace as inflation and real estate prices, we have seen a breaking of this trend in last couple of decades. Some of us miss those times, some even get frustrated at the state of affairs in families, some see the current trend as an attack on our culture and a western import. All these sets of people are right to a large extent. But we seldom see the reasons behind changing structures of families. Realizing the causes may not correct everything, but we can at least see clearly what can be changed and what cannot be changed, so that we can take a wise decision while living in a family.

A joint family was essentially an economic unit. About 80% population was involved in agriculture and even for the rest 20%, the profession was largely based on what one’s parents and grandparents used to do. This had many repercussions – a large part of people’s lives was spent in a joint family and even when the land or profession was divided later in life, it was divided equally among the sons. This meant that all the sons had equal financial status almost all their lives.


Two Dharmic-Patriots & a Letter


If we had a genuinely secular and patriotic media Swami Ramdev and Shri Rajiv Malhotra would make headlines every other day. Instead the media continuously strives to fill our mind with unimportant things with undue glamorization. Imagine, if we take out all the following items, how much mental space media can save us?

  • Bollywood
  • Cricket
  • Political bickering
  • Making us feel that Indian traditions are inferior to foreign ideologies and lifestyle

Recently, Swami Ramdev wrote a glowing endorsement letter for Shri Rajiv Malhotra. The press release (including the copy of the letter) from Shri Malhotra's Infinity Foundation can be downloaded here. This important news, lost in the sophisticated world of mainstream media, we celebrate it in Jagrit-Bharat circles. Let's reflect on why these prominent Dharmic-Patriots of current times, deserve our society's respect, let alone attention.


The things we have forgotten

The Things we have forgotten

The so called seculars of today don’t like to hear it for vested interests, though they say they don’t agree to it on some (home-made) factual grounds. But the fact is 80% population of this country has not ruled itself for about eight hundred years. So the interests of 80% population of this country have been put on back burner for eight hundred years almost without interruption, with patches of braveries and exceptions i.e. 80% by today’s count. This number was higher earlier, and because of the same reason has been declining steadily.

How many cases we can count in last eight hundred years, where the ruler’s first priority was welfare of masses, welfare of majority, welfare of Hindus? Maharana Pratap, Shivaji and may be a few more. What percentage of population did they rule, for how long, if you see it for a span of 800 years?

Religion being the primary identity for muslim rulers, they not only did no good for the majority, but most of them persecuted Hindus. Destruction of temples, mass conversions, massacres, imposition of taxes on Hindus – unless one has a hidden agenda,


Modern does NOT mean correct!

Modern does not mean correct


Talk about gay rights in India, talk about women's revealing dresses, talk about obscenity in bollywood movies – there’s a class of people who start shouting – Backward, Medieval times, conservative. These so called modern thinkers, who are basically western stooges, get their words out in the media because of prevailing conditions in the world - western thoughts dominate the world, western means modern. But at any time in history, aren't contemporary thoughts modern thoughts, anything happening in present days is modern. As per dictionary, modern means 'of or relating to the present time or the recent past'. It’s an entirely different topic whether its logically correct, is it scientifically correct, is it rational, is it right in the long run, do we want this trend to continue and are happy to give the results to our children and most importantly, do we have the knowledge to understand the implications of current or modern trends?

At any point of time, a person or a group of people do the best they can in the given circumstances. Based on their capabilities, constraints, what they do may not turn out to be correct, but because 'they' do it, they may think it’s correct. At any time, people also think they are the most modern and advanced compared to their previous generations. But modern does not mean right by default.


Ghar Wapsi - one analysis

ghar wapsi2

Roaming around in the market in your town, you are thirsty

Roaming around in the market in your town, you are thirsty

You see a hand-written sign board on the street with an arrow  – We serve Nimbu-paani in kulhad

Your see a billionaire celebrity’s big picture billboard saying – we serve a black fizzy refreshing tasty drink

No rich or powerful man owns nimbu-paani, no celebrity  endorses nimbu-paani

Movie stars, sports stars endorse this black fizzy drink

You recall reading somewhere – nimbu-paani is good for health, it cleanses the liver, kidneys and increases immunity

You recall reading somewhere – black fizzy drink has lot of sugar, causes obesity, diabetes, heart problems

You decide to explore both the places

You decide to explore both the places

On your way, you see some average looking (by today’s standard) volunteers cheering for nimbu-paani

Looking at the competition from nimbu-paani, black fizzy drink owners hire an IIM graduate for marketing

Nimbu-paani place is in a narrow street, lot of kulhads are littered around

Lot of plastic bottles and plastic cups are consumed at fizzy-drink place, but there is designated place for that ‘useless’ plastic, so it looks more organized

There is barely space for a car but you can figure out that when there were no cars on earth and plastic was not invented, this was a royal street

There is a separate designated place for cars, for people, for residual plastic – it looks much sophisticated & systematic

You are few meters away from nimbu-paani

You are few meters away from fizzy drink

Nimbu-paani volunteer is astonished to see that despite nimbu-paani being a superior product, people are flocking to black fizzy drink

IIM marketing guy hires another billionaire celebrity to vouch for their drink

Frustrated, nimbu-paani volunteer talks rudely to a potential customer

Having huge cash reserve, black fizzy drink company offers free drink for a month. They know nimbu-paani cannot match their offer & will have to shut shop soon. Then they can charge anything

Media makes hue and cry over rude behaviour

Media is ga-ga over free drink

Another volunteer shouts -  nimbu-paani is good for health, no one listens to him

Fizzy drink pays one TV channel X, they show an hour long program praising their drink

Volunteers go home. Remember, no one owns nimbu-paani anyway

Some more TV channels are impressed by what was shown on channel X & show more programs endorsing fizzy drink #MentalSlaves

Nimbu-paani place - the floor, walls & surroundings are rustic, rough, grainy, coarse

Black fizzy drink place - The surroundings are flashy, smooth, shiny

  1. today’s definition, everything looks backward, made for poor people

  2. today’s definition, everything looks modern, made for rich people


Nimbu-paani is good in long term, for your health – but you tend to ignore this fact

This drink is dangerous, especially if taken consistently – but you tend to ignore this fact

Because no one said it loudly

Famous people on TV, in newspapers, media say fizzy drink is a good thing

Some volunteers are at home, trying not to remember the defeat & are watching a cricket match. Some new volunteers join the nimbu-paani campaign, but the whole movement is haphazard. Remember, no one owns nimbu-paani

How you plan to handle the residual plastic, the adverse effects on health – someone asks. 

No one gives him a damn

This is crude, native, rough

This is glamorous, romantic, marvelous

Result – despite being cheaper, healthier & having little or no side-effects on environment, the customers are few

Huge number of customers – the residual plastic bottles, adverse effects on health take a huge toll, but all that is suppressed, so the company keepsgrowing (?)


One fine day – after (how) long, the world awakens - thirsty, very thirsty; only to find nimbu-paani is what they had always been yearning for

Votes of thanks pour from everywhere for the unknown volunteers, who, despite the odds being against them, kept the nimbu-paani alive.

Author: Arun Chaba

Published: Feb 24, 2015

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कश्मीर और सेकुलरिज्म

Kashmir and Secularism

जम्‍मू कश्‍मीर में भाजपा-पीडीपी के बीच गठबंधन का बहुत ज्‍यादा विरोध भी हो रहा है और समर्थन भी। मुझे लगता है मौका दिया जाना चाहिए, क्‍योंकि आप दिल्‍ली में बैठकर विरोध तो कर रहे हैं लेकिन 1990 के बाद आपमें से किसी ने कश्‍मीरी पंडितों के दर्द को न झेला है, न समझा है। लेकिन मुझे लगता है कि उजड़े हुए कश्‍मीरी पंडितों को घाटी में बसाने वाली यह पहली सरकार आई है, अन्‍यथा कोई उनकी सुध नहीं लेता था। उनकी बात करना भी सांप्रदायिकता के खांचे में आता था। यह तय मानिए कि कश्‍मीर की घाटी को नेहरू से लेकर आज तक के सेक्‍यूलरवादियों ने इतना उलझा दिया है कि बिना जनसंख्‍या में बदलाव लाए, बिना नया प्रयोग किये सीधे सीधे आप वहां से 370 नहीं हटा सकते हैं। 65 साल इंतजार किया है, तो थोड़ा और इंतजार करने में अर्धर्य क्‍यों हो रहे हैं।

मैं जनसंघ का पहला घोषणा पत्र पढ़ रहा था, जिसमें जम्‍मू-कश्‍मीर को लेकर बड़ा ही खूबसूरत फॉर्मूला दिया गया था, जो मुझे उचित लगता है। उस घोषणा पत्र को डॉ श्‍यामाप्रसाद मुखर्जी के कहने पर बलराज मधोक ने तैयार किया था। उस फॉर्मूला के तहत जम्‍मू व लददाख के लोग धारा- 370 की समाप्ति चाहते हैं, इसलिए इन्‍हें मिलाकर एक स्‍वतंत्र राज्‍य बना देना चाहिए, जो धारा 370 से पूरी तरह से मुक्‍त होगा।

इसके बाद केवल घाटी बचेगी जहां धारा 370 लगी रहे। धारा 370 के कारण घाटी का अविकास तो दिख ही रहा है, जब 370 के बिना जम्‍मू-लदाख में विकास होगा तो घाटी के लोग भी देर सवेर धारा 370 को हटाने की मांग के लिए सडक पर उतरेंगे और यही वह मौका होगा जब घाटी से भी 370 को हटाने की प्रक्रिया शुरू होगी।


Why we expect so much from our PM?

why we expect

Most of Modi supporters are still with him and those who seem to say – What has Modi done in last 10 months? are the ones who didn’t support Modi in 2014 Loksabha elections. When Modi government increased the train fares right after assuming office, I remember one security guard in my office saying – ‘What can Modi do, he has no other choice because previous government was corrupt and mis-managed the finances, so the fares had to be increased. Modi cannot bring money from his home to run the railways.’ So even the so called not-so-educated types know the basics of economics and understand that it takes time for things to show effect. In spite of that, there is no denying the fact that expectations are huge from Modi. Some reasons:

Broken Window theory: This theory was first introduced by James Q. Wilson and George L. Kelling in 1982 and the title of theory comes from this example:

“Consider a building with a few broken windows. If the windows are not repaired, the tendency is for vandals to break a few more windows. Eventually, they may even break into the building, and if it's unoccupied, perhaps become squatters or light fires inside.